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Strengthen Your Self-Esteem Muscle and Boost Your Confidence With These 8 Practices

Your self-esteem is a muscle.

Yes, you read that right. Just like your biceps and triceps, your self-esteem needs a daily workout. How do you strengthen your self-esteem muscle? By getting into a positive routine of daily practices that help pump you up for a serious confidence boost!

Over the years, you may have struggled with self-love and self-esteem. Especially as women, our self-esteem gets a real beating.

Our self-esteem muscle gets fed all the wrong nutrition.

Unfortunately, our self-esteem muscle gets fed all the wrong nutrition. The media criticizes our bodies. Overbearing relatives tell us we’re not enough. “Failures” knock out our internal value. And negative self-talk reinforces all of it.

This is all self-esteem junk food. So, naturally, to build this muscle and get an overall confidence boost, we have to feed it the healthy food it needs to rebuild, strengthen, and allow it to boost our wellbeing the way that nature intended.

Stop feeding your self-esteem junk food! Boost Your Self-Esteem With These 7 Simple Exercises

Here Are 8 Ways to Feed Your Self-Esteem Healthy Food for an Overall Confidence Boost:


1. Practice Self-Praise

You, my dear, are your number one champion. You are the voice you hear more than any other voice in the world. Literally!

The voice in your head is your best friend, so why would you let that voice knock you down? Instead, turn that voice into a loving, positive voice. Choose one thing per day to praise about yourself, no matter how small.

It might feel weird at first, but do it anyway! Do it until you start to believe it. Before you know it, you’ll have reconditioned your self-talk.


2. Swap the Bad for the Good

Another way to reinforce positive self-talk is to swap every negative statement you make about yourself for five positive statements about yourself. Maybe the statement is “This is too hard!” or “I’m not talented,” “I’m not smart enough,” or “They’re better than me.”

Swap those mean girl thoughts out for some self-love friends instead.

3. Adopt One Month of Positive Mantras

Be the loving parent or guardian you hoped for growing up. Or maybe it was a grandparent, coach, or teacher who fell short of your expectations of love. Either way, create a mantra of positivity out of what they did not give you growing up.

Say it to yourself every day for a month.

4. Practice Love

For some of us, telling ourselves that we love ourselves might be incredibly uncomfortable. Culturally, we were never taught to spend time practicing self-love, so when we’re finally asked to look in a mirror and tell ourselves that we love ourselves, all we can see are the imperfections of our bodies, instead of the perfection of our souls.

The eyes are the window to the soul, and your soul is made up of infinite love and perfection.

So, look yourself in the eyes in front of a mirror and say: “I love you.”

5. Live in Child-Like Joy!

As children, we are very transparent. What we love we exclaim to the world. Painting? Yes! Dancing? Right this second! Swinging on swings? What are we waiting for?!

But as adults, the same things that brought us such joy feel off limits.

What society views as immature or child-like is actually the spirit’s way of savoring the joy in this world. Growing up doesn’t mean giving up the things that bring us joy.

So, do that thing you loved to do as a child, whether it was painting, riding a bike, roller skating, dancing, or swinging on a swing. Do it!

6. Ask for Peer Support

We sometimes walk through life in this constant state of self-critique. But have you ever stopped to wonder what the people who love you most think of you?

Try this experiment: Ask three people who you love and know you well to write down three things that they love or admire about you.

It may be that they think you’re wise, kind, strong. You’ll be surprised what you’ll find out! It will also sit deeply in your heart to know that there are people out there who feel this way about you.

7. Care for the Child Within

Let’s be real – there will be days when you just can’t muster the energy or love to change that voice in your head. You might feel so terribly down on yourself that the self-loathing you feel cannot be overcome.

On these days, think of yourself as your Child Self. Imagine that you’re not talking to the current you, but the child you.

Find an old photo of yourself as a child, and imagine that you’re saying the negative self-talk to her, “You’re stupid! You’re worthless. You’re not enough!” It’s a lot tougher to do when you’re saying these things to an innocent child, isn’t it?

Because the fact is that if a child did face the same obstacles you were facing, you wouldn’t put her down, you’d give her a confidence boost!

Here’s the thing – that child in that photo still exists inside of you, and she’s the one you’re obliterating with the negative self-talk. Imagine her when you’re feeling at your very worst, and muster the energy to be there for her. Give her the loving talk she needs.


8. Set Aside Daily “You” Time

Alone time is the greatest gift that you can give yourself, and it will also boost your self-esteem. This can be done in the form of meditation (or perhaps another spiritual regiment like prayer), reading, physical activity like yoga, or going for a nice walk outside.

Whatever you choose, the main objective is to be still, and spend time alone with yourself to rejuvenate your energy and reconnect to your purpose.

Bring More Self-Love Into Your Life for a Confidence Boost and Greater Self-Esteem

So there you have it – a mini-gym for your self-esteem. It may feel difficult at first, but over time you’ll build the muscle you need to effortlessly exude confidence.

It’ll become second-nature to say to yourself, “I love you! You’re fantastic!”

How do you get a confidence boost? How do you pump up your self-esteem muscle? Let us know in the comments section below!

Featured image: Štefan Štefančík

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Tahira Mitchell

Tahira is a natural-born life healer with a Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Her speciality is helping women achieve emotional well-being. Tahira works with women who have experienced emotional dysfunction in their past to heal their wounds and take ownership of their lives. You can download her free ebook called “Emotions: Secret Weapons That Heal, 6 Steps for Achieving Emotional Freedom” on her website.

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